So Not Okay: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Bystander

So Not Okay: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Bystander



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  1. Zoe Race Zoe Race says:

    A book about a girl trying to stop bullying at her school Very fun to read The characters are very interesting and understanding Loved it Sofia Marie recommended it to me before Two other books in series Yay


  2. Kathbick Kathbick says:

    What a great book My son was being bullied and I listened to a podcast on bullying with the author, where she mentioned this book I read it to my 12 year old daughter We couldn t put it down Great tips about dealing with bullies.


  3. Cate Cate says:

    This book was very enlightening on how we should all help stop bullying I also really liked the storyline I would like a mentor like the one who helps the tribelet in this story Recommended for girls ages 8 This book is a must read for all middle school girls


  4. Kate Kate says:

    I m trying to read outside my favorite children s genres a littlein order to boost my readers advisory skills in areas where they re lacking, and one of those is inspirational materials Though we don t get a ton of requests for these at my library, they do pop up every so often and I think it s important to be familiar with them.So Not Okay tells the story of Tori, a sixth grader who is beginning to see bullying problems in her school At first, rich mean girl Kylie picks on Tori and her I m trying to read outside my favorite children s genres a littlein order to boost my readers advisory skills in areas where they re lacking, and one of those is inspirational materials Though we don t get a ton of requests for these at my library, they do pop up every so often and I think it s important to be familiar with them.So Not Okay tells the story of Tori, a sixth grader who is beginning to see bullying problems in her school At first, rich mean girl Kylie picks on Tori and her friends, but when new girl Ginger comes to school, Kylie moves her focus to Ginger With unwashed hair, unfashionable clothes, and a loud voice, Ginger is an easy target and not the kind of person that anyone wants to be friends with When a human behavior assignment in science leaves Ginger without a group to work with, Tori reluctantly allows her to join the group she s formed with three friends As Kylie s bullying progresses, Tori s group decides to study why some people are so mean This group project forms the backbone of the story afterwards as Tori, Ginger, and friends try to figure out the best way to stop being the target of the Wolf Pack The religious content in this book is pretty light until the final third of the book, the only hints that this could be an inspirational book are mentions of going to church Not until the girls mentor Lydia who is a little person for some reason I guess to give her something to overcome and a justification for her faith starts talking about prayer to Tori do we see that this is a Christian book, and even then it s pretty light and easily skipped if you don t care for that kind of thing.The good about this book it s very readable, the kind of thing that kids in the target age would definitely pick up on their own and enjoy If you re familiar with the Beacon Street Girls or the Cupcake Diaries, it s sort of similar to those books Chatty, written in the first person, and including the kinds of little details that kids crave favorite foods, the kinds of houses the girls live in, etc.The not so good about this book oy Though the book wasn t preachy in the religious sense, it really really was in the anti bullying sense It felt like the author was trying to write a how to deal with bullies 101 guidebook, and believe me, kids pick up on that and do not like it I also didn t like how every single girl was just a stock character Ophelia, with her Shakespearean name, is the Dramatic One Winnie is whiny and shy Tori is smart Kylie is the alpha mean girl who hasmoney than she knows what to do with and an equally mean mom I mean, come on I m not saying every book about bullying needs to be Wonder level great, but at least put some effort into your characters The final thing that bugged me about this book and I m saying this as someone who was the weird kid in middle school is that a lot of the bullying that teachers let slide just pushed credulity way too far At one point, Kylie and friends stuff Tori into a locker and try to make it look like they did it as self defense, and a teacher almost buys it. I mean, come on Adults aren t so stupid that they can t see what s going on in front of them Overall, I ll recommend this to parents looking for an inspirational book for their child, but I can t say it s one I d recommend in general It was perfectly fine and it will find its fans, but there are better fiction books about bullying out there


  5. Jalynn Patterson Jalynn Patterson says:

    About the Book There is no such thing as neutral.According to the Ambassadors 4 Kids Club, one out of every four students is bullied and 85% of these situations never receive intervention Parents, students, and teachers alike have amped up the discussion of how to solve the bullying problem for a networked generation of kids.Written by bestselling author, Nancy Rue, each book in the Mean Girl Makeover trilogy focuses on a different character s point of view the bully, the victim, and the byst About the Book There is no such thing as neutral.According to the Ambassadors 4 Kids Club, one out of every four students is bullied and 85% of these situations never receive intervention Parents, students, and teachers alike have amped up the discussion of how to solve the bullying problem for a networked generation of kids.Written by bestselling author, Nancy Rue, each book in the Mean Girl Makeover trilogy focuses on a different character s point of view the bully, the victim, and the bystander Each girl has a different personality so that every reader can find a character she relates to The books, based on Scripture, show solid biblical solutions to the bullying problem set in a story for kids So Not Okay tells the story of Tori Taylor, a quiet sixth grader at Gold Country Middle School in Grass Valley, California Tori knows to stay out of the way of Kylie, the queen bee of GCMS When an awkward new student named Ginger becomes Kylie s new target, Tori whispers a prayer of thanks that it s not her But as Kylie s bullying of Ginger continues to build, Tori feels guilty and tries to be kind to Ginger Pretty soon, the bullying line of fire directed toward Ginger starts deflecting onto Tori, who must decide if she and her friends can befriend Ginger and withstand Kylie s taunts, or do nothing and resume their status quo Tori s decision dramatically changes her trajectory for the rest of the school year.About the Author Nancy Rue is the bestselling author ofthan 100 books for teens, tweens, and adults, two of which have won Christy Awards Nancy is also a popular speaker and radio guest due to her expertise in tween and teen issues She and her husband, Jim, have raised a daughter of their own and now share their Tennessee lake home with two yellow labs.My Review Along with the advancement of technology, there has been another growing trend bullying It is no longer just happening on the school playground it can be anywhere School, work, church you name it and I guarantee that some form of bullying is taking place Even online, the statistics keep growing for the youth of our society to use online media for a way to bully their peers Even laws as of late have been changed to address the issue Let s face it, this senseless trend is every way these days Bestselling author Nancy Rue has decided through her writing to address the issue She has created a trilogy that will give this outlandish subject a voice and the way she has chosen to do it is very unique She has given us three different views one for the victim, one for the bully, and one for the bystander All books are based on scripture and show our youth how to handle this demon, God s way The first book in the trilogy is entitled, So Not Okay Mean Girl Makeover, and in it we find the story of Tory Taylor She is a sixth grader that is just grateful to God that she is not the one being bullied When she starts to feel a twinge of guilt by standing by and letting it happen to Ginger, a new student at her school As I m reading the book, I was thinking where are the adults in this situation As this trilogy continues, it will be exciting to see how God changes the lives of each of these girls so that they each see the role that they play in the whole scenario Disclosure This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from the author


  6. Laura A. Grace Laura A. Grace says:

    I am beyond thankful and appreciative that Nancy Rue took the time to write this novel I teach a group of elementary girls every Wednesday night at my church and each one of them said they had been bullied It was very eye opening to read SO Not Okay and have a better understanding of what my girls have gone through Talk about heart breaking SO Not Okay hit on so many topics concerning bullying that not only will it leave people aware of how it happens, but what the victim can do I actually I am beyond thankful and appreciative that Nancy Rue took the time to write this novel I teach a group of elementary girls every Wednesday night at my church and each one of them said they had been bullied It was very eye opening to read SO Not Okay and have a better understanding of what my girls have gone through Talk about heart breaking SO Not Okay hit on so many topics concerning bullying that not only will it leave people aware of how it happens, but what the victim can do I actually plan to print out the same code that the girls used in the book for my own girls What makes the code even cooler is that all of them are based on the Bible The novel itself was a great read, but it was also very hard to read through as well I have never personally been bullied and seeing the effects of bullying on Tori and her peers was hard to cope with As a parent and teacher I don t want to be a random bystander, but want my kids and students to know they can come to me as a trusted adult After reading I also have a better understanding of helping my children understand in how not to be a bystander as well.Overall, I highly recommend this novel to tweens you are getting bullied and even parents teachers family members who want an inside scoop of what their child or someone else is going through as well as how to handle it As Nancy points out through this entire novel that by sitting back and doing nothing we are just like the bully, but God can give these children and parents the strength to make a bold stand for Him I give SO Not Okay a 5 out of 5 stars definitely in my top 10 reads of this year I received an ARC copy from the author in exchange for an honest review All thoughts expressed are my own and I was not required to write a positive review


  7. Sofia Marie Sofia Marie says:

    The Pack was there before That wasn t what had changed It was just that Tori had never been their target before.Kylie and her friends the Pack, as Tori calls them are the girls in sixth grade who decide what s cool And apparently the new girl Ginger is not Will it just go away , as some people say, or should Tori do something And if she will what will it cost her Bullying isn t a joke It s real and it s out there So Not Okay dealswith the word bullying than the hit and punch b The Pack was there before That wasn t what had changed It was just that Tori had never been their target before.Kylie and her friends the Pack, as Tori calls them are the girls in sixth grade who decide what s cool And apparently the new girl Ginger is not Will it just go away , as some people say, or should Tori do something And if she will what will it cost her Bullying isn t a joke It s real and it s out there So Not Okay dealswith the word bullying than the hit and punch bullying The type of bullying that leaves you feeling like a looser and a nerd The type that calls a girl gingerbread of doesn t let her go to her locker or laughs when she reads her essay The type that s hard to pin point and that s easy to miss for the adults But is still there.So Not Okay is Nancy Rue s first book in the anti bullying series It is told from the bystander s point of view Tori learns that there is no such thing as neutral and that something can and should be done There is also discussion on WHAT can be done.If you want some great fiction with an even greater message, you just might enjoy this book The second one You Can t Sit With Us is told from the bullied girl s point of view and the last one from the bully s point of view Review written by Sofia Marie of the Teens Live for Jesus blog


  8. Michelle Brock Michelle Brock says:

    I liked this story about bullying It was an interesting storyline, and although it was clearly a fictional approach to teaching, it didn t feel preachy Helpful information was presented in a natural way that fit the storyline It s a Christian book, but the Christian part is subtle The mentor character who helps the girls work through their problem tells them she s got Bible verses and principles that go with each step of responding to bullies, but those Bible verses aren t written anywhere t I liked this story about bullying It was an interesting storyline, and although it was clearly a fictional approach to teaching, it didn t feel preachy Helpful information was presented in a natural way that fit the storyline It s a Christian book, but the Christian part is subtle The mentor character who helps the girls work through their problem tells them she s got Bible verses and principles that go with each step of responding to bullies, but those Bible verses aren t written anywhere that I can find I even checked on Nancy Rue s website, but although she s got helpful printouts, those Bible verses aren t there This is a fantastic book for a discussion group, or just to open discussion between parents and their children


  9. Kara Kara says:

    Before I get to this great book, I wanted to add my own personal thoughts on bullying I was bullied throughout my elementary years in PRIVATE schools and even in the older years by not so nice friends of mine in middle school public school by then I was also a bully to kids around me when I decided I d had enough being picked on That s not something I admit lightly, but it s true Some of it I could have avoided and I m definitely ashamed on the meanness I bestowed on others without reason Before I get to this great book, I wanted to add my own personal thoughts on bullying I was bullied throughout my elementary years in PRIVATE schools and even in the older years by not so nice friends of mine in middle school public school by then I was also a bully to kids around me when I decided I d had enough being picked on That s not something I admit lightly, but it s true Some of it I could have avoided and I m definitely ashamed on the meanness I bestowed on others without reason I never forgot what it was like to be made fun enough rejected excluded laughed at threatened but I didn t have the maturity to walk away or stand up for myself I was finally counseled in church and by God to release the pent up anger I had and be healed of those memories, to forgive myself and others who had disrespected me With God s love, I was finally able to overcome these insecurities.I CAN T STAND BULLIES even though I myself was one at times when younger but I can honestly say I ve been on both sides of this issue and it s still a problem today Kids of all ages need to know they re not alone in this, that God loves them no matter what, and that it s okay to take a stand Each of us was picked on at some point growing up, but we can pray for our kids today, discuss the matter with them, and let them know we support them they can trust us, the adults in their lives I jumped at the chance to be part of Nancy Rue s Mean Girl Makeover Series and I m honored to have the chance to review this book The statistics on bullying have gotten worse and scarier over the years, but it s never too late to take steps It s time to show bullies of all ages that this will not be tolerated any.It s SO NOT OKAY to disrespect kids, make fun of kids, abuse kids, threaten kids, yell at them, ignore what s bothering a child, or mistreat them in any way It s time to show kids how much they are loved, by their families and by God himself Thanks for reading this and I pray you re encouraged by it My CommentsThis is my first time reading Nancy Rue, but it won t be my last The story started kind of slow in getting my attention, but once it got going I was HOOKED I truly love that this book is from the perspective of Victoria, Tori Taylor She s what I would consider the bystander in this book, but her heart is absolutely amazing and wow, is she smart It s 6th grade and the rules have been the same since elementary school, stay out of The Pack s way and you won t be bothered The pack consists of leader Kylie, the leader and nicknamed The Alpha Wolf which I thought was utterly clever and even fitting to her character And her friends Riannon, Izzy, Heidi, and Shelby.Tori and her best friends, Ophelia Phee and Winnie work have lots of classes together, work together, and support one another through everything That all changes when the new girl arrives Ginger s presence changes the ENTIRE dynamics of the school when everyone knows to stay away from The Pack She tries to befriend them with disastrous results Tori notices what s going on and it sickens her Then one day they re all in class together and Tori stands up for the new girl, which has very unexpected results Tori invites Ginger into their group for a class project and thethey research the project, thetrouble brews against them.All I can really say about this book is..WOW I simply loved how Tori reacted and how she felt compelled to take a stand even though the odds were against her the whole time.What I loved about this book Lydia, Tori s dad s assistant, sitting with the girls while working on their project and the conversations they have together those were the best scenes How the girls become the Tribelet and work together to defend GingerTori s grandmother and the precious relationship they shareHow Tori wages war on bullying, NOT the bulliesThe way justice comes aboutThe biggest problem I had about this book other than the insane unfairness of the bullying was the mistreatment of Ophelia against Tori Phee becomes a total brat and continues to give Tori ultimatums I understood her fear and it was obvious she suffered from her decision, but being neutral and pretending there isn t a problem DOES NOT make it go away.Some of the tactics The Pack uses in the story took my breath away in disbelief Guys are also bullies, but girls are just so CRUEL The lengths they went to in order to discourage and gang up on Tori and her friends was completely uncalled for And none of the teachers noticing I never experienced anything like that in middle school, but seeing their situation had me cheering harder for Tori Kylie doesn t realize she s mean Goodness, that had my eyes go wide.Tori s courage and determination is also unbelievable in a good way Wow, that girl had my attention all the way as she continues to help her friends do the right thing I was so proud of her and amazed by her strength Every method she applies turned out to be Biblical, but there was no preaching in the story at all There is one scene in church with Tori and her family, but it had me laughing.This story is UTTERLY touching and it offers such wonderful advice to tweens on how to handle peer pressure, fitting in, doing the right thing, and responding the right way to unfairness in school I laughed, I cried, and I cheered for these girls and just LOOOOVED how it ended I highly recommend this book and this series for kids aged preteen to high school It gives hope and shows that you re not alone when facing a bully, no matter what age you are.I want to thank the author and Thomas Nelson for sending me a review copy I was not required to write a positive review The opinions expressed are my own I listed famous bullies that I considered from movies I loved in this review Please feel free to comment with bullies you remember from books or movies Tori is considered the leader of her group and she s the one who exerts the most courage when having a show down with the other bulliesOphelia is the one who can only see her side of the issue and believes if she stays invisible the problem will eventually go awayWinnie is the most timid of the three, but she s also loyal to her friends She wants to stay invisible, but she knows this won t help the problem so she does help outMitch is considered an indie of the group, but she also wants to do the right thing despite the risks involved Mitch is also loyal and willing to do what it takes to stop the problemGinger is the target, but she joins these girls in doing the right thing and is even willing to take on the pranks by herselfWhich one of these characters would you most relate to I would love to say Tori, but I think I mlike Mitch Doing the right thing is risky, but it s worth it in the end.Code for Respecting the Dignity of Every Human BeingBullying is not a normal part of growing up It s wrong, and we re not having it at our school any Please sign this pledge to be part of making this a safe place to be.I will not do any of the following things.I will help anyone who is being treated in any of these ways If I m being treated in any of these ways, I ll get help from a friend or an adult please get the book to learnabout this pledge, wonderfully done


  10. Gale Holt Gale Holt says:

    The first in a must read trilogy Mean Girl Makeover Parents, teachers, and middle school girls will gain new insights about bullying in these fast paced, entertaining novels with believable, compelling characters This first in the series traces the main character Tori s growth from bystander to courageous leader and friend.


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So Not Okay: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Bystander ❰EPUB❯ ✼ So Not Okay: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Bystander Author Nancy N. Rue – Centrumpowypadkowe.co.uk There is no such thing as neutralAccording to the Ambassadors Kids Club, one out of every four students is bullied and % of these situations never receive intervention Parents, students, and teachers There is no such thing as neutralAccording Okay: An Epub Û to the AmbassadorsKids Club, one out of every four students is bullied and % of these situations never receive intervention Parents, students, and teachers alike have amped up the discussion of how to solve the bullying problem for a networked generation of kidsWritten by bestselling author, Nancy Rue, each book in the Mean Girl Makeover trilogy focuses on a different character s point of view the bully, the victim, and the bystander Each So Not ePUB Ò girl has a different personality so that every reader can find a character she relates to The books, based on Scripture, show solid biblical solutions to the bullying problem set in a story for kids So Not Okay tells the story of Tori Taylor, a quiet sixth grader at Gold Country Middle School in Grass Valley, California Tori knows to stay out of the way of Kylie, the queen bee of GCMS When an awkward new student named Ginger becomes Kylie Not Okay: An MOBI ó s new target, Tori whispers a prayer of thanks that it s not her But as Kylie s bullying of Ginger continues to build, Tori feels guilty and tries to be kind to Ginger Pretty soon, the bullying line of fire directed toward Ginger starts deflecting onto Tori, who must decide if she and her friends can befriend Ginger and withstand Kylie s taunts, or do nothing and resume their status quo Tori s decision dramatically changes her trajectory for the rest of the school yearFeatures Benefits Bookin a new middle grade fiction series for tween girlsBullying is the topic of awareness in schools and the mediaSeries will tell the story in three different perspectives the bully, the victim, and the bystander So Not Okay tells the story of the bystander, a role in which many tweens find themselves.