Paperback Þ Positive Discipline PDF/EPUB Ú

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Positive Discipline [Download] ✤ Positive Discipline ➸ Jane Nelsen – Centrumpowypadkowe.co.uk For twenty five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown ups working with children Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has writ For twenty five years, Positive Discipline has been the gold standard reference for grown ups working with children Now Jane Nelsen, distinguished psychologist, educator, and mother of seven, has written a revised and expanded edition The key to Positive Discipline is not punishment, she tells us, but mutual respect Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be both firm and kind, so that any child from a three year old toddler to a rebellious teenager can learn creative cooperation and self discipline with no loss of dignity Inside you ll discover how to bridge communication gaps defuse power struggles avoid the dangers of praise enforce your message of love build on strengths, not weaknesses hold children accountable with their self respect intact teach children not what to think but how to think win cooperation at home and at school meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of Positive Discipline in action Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice.

    Kindle Welcome to the Kindle ereader store bridge communication gaps defuse power struggles avoid the dangers of praise enforce your message of love build on strengths, not weaknesses hold children accountable with their self respect intact teach children not what to think but how to think win cooperation at home and at school meet the special challenge of teen misbehavior It is not easy to improve a classic book, but Jane Nelson has done so in this revised edition Packed with updated examples that are clear and specific, Positive Discipline shows parents exactly how to focus on solutions while being kind and firm If you want to enrich your relationship with your children, this is the book for you Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too Millions of children have already benefited from the counsel in this wise and warmhearted book, which features dozens of true stories of Positive Discipline in action Give your child the tools he or she needs for a well adjusted life with this proven treasure trove of practical advice."/>
  • Paperback
  • 349 pages
  • Positive Discipline
  • Jane Nelsen
  • English
  • 08 December 2018
  • 0345487672

About the Author: Jane Nelsen

Dr Jane Nelsen is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in South Jordan, UT and Carlsbad, CAShe is the author and or coauthor of the Positive Discipline Series.



10 thoughts on “Positive Discipline

  1. Stuart Stuart says:

    This seemed to be just what I needed at this juncture with our children Lots of core messages resonate strongly A misbehaving child is a discouraged child Children simply want belonging and significance It is wrong to think that we must make children feel worse in order to do better.And I could go on One challenge with a book like this is that you will still hunger for exactly the right words to use in your own situation I ve read it all the way through and still struggle for the right This seemed to be just what I needed at this juncture with our children Lots of core messages resonate strongly A misbehaving child is a discouraged child Children simply want belonging and significance It is wrong to think that we must make children feel worse in order to do better.And I could go on One challenge with a book like this is that you will still hunger for exactly the right words to use in your own situation I ve read it all the way through and still struggle for the right approrpaite message for the moment Also daunting is the prospect of developing solutions when you feel a poverty of magination, and your child is not anxious to get the ball rolling They do provide nice leads, though, and I understand offer too a book focused on solutions which I will order now

  2. Beth Beth says:

    I am re reading this book after losing it on the bookshelf for 15 years Wow Why didn t I memorize it way back when This should have been on my nightstand right along with my scriptures I have very recently been researching how to havemeaningful discipline I had already come to the understanding through my studies of Waldorf education and prayerful meditation that the child s soul is a tender and beautiful thing that needs careful nurturing and guidance Harsh, humiliating punishments I am re reading this book after losing it on the bookshelf for 15 years Wow Why didn t I memorize it way back when This should have been on my nightstand right along with my scriptures I have very recently been researching how to havemeaningful discipline I had already come to the understanding through my studies of Waldorf education and prayerful meditation that the child s soul is a tender and beautiful thing that needs careful nurturing and guidance Harsh, humiliating punishments do not really teach a child how to be a moral and compassionate human being In this book, Jane Nelson makes it clear just what the results of Punishment are, and how we can guide and teach our children with kindness but firmness to achieve the results we really want She gives great examples all the way through the book of how to use the different techniques and attitudes in specific situations It is a great source for really useful tools we can use as parents and teachers to guide our children in thier journey through life I have to add a note here Jane Nelsen advocates time out for all ages of children, including babies I DO NOT agree with this The tools she provides in this book are great for children over the age of 6 Babies and toddlers should never be isolated from their family They may learn to accept it, but they cannot understand it If you are parenting a child under the age of 6, please consider the tools in this blog post

  3. Deb Deb says:

    This is an interesting book on discipline using the Adlerian approach It s a different way of thinking about raising kids than most people do naturally It encourages parents and teachers to stop adding shame, blame, and pain to kids misbehavior because that doesn t achieve the long term results in character that parents have as the goal for their kids I recommend this book there s a whole series of them for all different life situations one for preschoolers, one for classrooms, one for sin This is an interesting book on discipline using the Adlerian approach It s a different way of thinking about raising kids than most people do naturally It encourages parents and teachers to stop adding shame, blame, and pain to kids misbehavior because that doesn t achieve the long term results in character that parents have as the goal for their kids I recommend this book there s a whole series of them for all different life situations one for preschoolers, one for classrooms, one for single parents

  4. Lacy Lacy says:

    I m a yeller It s one of the things I hate about myself as a parent But this book has legitimately helped me shift away from my crazytown.

  5. Robert Whitcomb Robert Whitcomb says:

    In my opinion, this is the most important book on parenting one can read The tools is provides you with, the mindset it imparts will assist you in having a great relationship with your children as well as providing them with the firm and loving discipline that is needed I highly recommend reading this book before reading any other parenting book It won t cover every situation, but it will give you a complete set of parenting tools as well as excellent guidance to look for help.

  6. Seth Roskos Seth Roskos says:

    OK, I haven t quite finished it yet, but this book has changed my life andimportantly changed my relationship with my kids It is a must read for every parent Would you like to hug your child instead of punishing him and in the process teach him to be a capable, confident problem solver Put an end to power struggles Understand what is appropriate behavior for each phase of a child s development Do you know why your child acts up and whether your response only makes the situation worse OK, I haven t quite finished it yet, but this book has changed my life andimportantly changed my relationship with my kids It is a must read for every parent Would you like to hug your child instead of punishing him and in the process teach him to be a capable, confident problem solver Put an end to power struggles Understand what is appropriate behavior for each phase of a child s development Do you know why your child acts up and whether your response only makes the situation worse.Dr Nelsen and her colleagues have discovered an approach to parenting and perhaps I m biased because for me this book is much broader than just discipline that emphasizes your relationship with your child as the cornerstone of the child s and your personal development She teaches discipline without punishment and while I haven t gotten there yet, she s convinced me it may be possible with some children Of course I didn t adopt every tip and technique in the book, but I ve adopted enough of them to see their power.No book will tell you every move to make to be a good parent No two children or parents are alike Dr Nelsen first accepts that people will make mistakes, both parents and children, then she teaches us how to work together to turns those mistakes into opportunities to grow closer, stronger and smarter.Note that there are several version of this book I read Positive Discipline for Preschoolers because that s where my kids are If you have one child or one problem child like I do , choose the version for that age group and you will get somecustomized content

  7. Leta Leta says:

    For those of you familiar with gospel principles, this book is full of them Some one told me this lady is LDS, I don t know if it is true but her concepts support Christ like ways The theory of positive discipline stretched my mind and heart to new places about how I can parentlovingly Some of her one liners that are so true A misbehaving child is a discouraged child When a child is misbehaving, the last thing they need is a spank The misbehavior is a plea for love Also, We don For those of you familiar with gospel principles, this book is full of them Some one told me this lady is LDS, I don t know if it is true but her concepts support Christ like ways The theory of positive discipline stretched my mind and heart to new places about how I can parentlovingly Some of her one liners that are so true A misbehaving child is a discouraged child When a child is misbehaving, the last thing they need is a spank The misbehavior is a plea for love Also, We don t inspire children or anyone for that matter to do better by making them feel worse Any time I have done badly and then been scolded for it, I feel so much worse On the other hand, when I am gently handled and can counsel with someone who truly loves me and wants what s best for me, I can safely talk through the situation to figure out a better way to handle things It s so simple and so effective I am trying these new ways in my home, and the results Well, Jane Nelson always says when first implementing these new ways, that it gets worse before it gets better because they will test it But I have seen greater cooperation andlove, consideration, compassion, and willingness in our home

  8. Daniel L. Daniel L. says:

    Winning Children Over Rather than Winning Over ChildrenIn his 1923 classic, How to Love a Child, Janusz Korczak warned against relying on manuals when raising children rather, the adult should listen and be attuned to both the children at hand and maintain an awareness of what it means and how it feels to be a child in short, the ability to use one s empathy and moral sense to understand the life of the child by being able to see the world from a child s perspective.Of the many books on disc Winning Children Over Rather than Winning Over ChildrenIn his 1923 classic, How to Love a Child, Janusz Korczak warned against relying on manuals when raising children rather, the adult should listen and be attuned to both the children at hand and maintain an awareness of what it means and how it feels to be a child in short, the ability to use one s empathy and moral sense to understand the life of the child by being able to see the world from a child s perspective.Of the many books on discipline, a very important part of loving, teaching, and raising children, Positive Discipline is one of the better books out there, in that it espouses a basic philosophy of treating children people with respect and dignity, and maintaining a faith in the underlying goodness of children, just as child advocates such as Jane Addams, Janusz Korczak, and Robert Coles advocated so long ago Positive Discipline is based on the teachings of two prominent psychiatrists, Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs The book, however, does not seem to adhere strongly to Adler s belief that one should know as much as possible about each child, as each child is unique A strong point of Positive Discipline is that it encourages using intrinsic rather than extrinsic motivation, much as Alfie Kohn does in his controversial treatises though Kohn has expressed a strong disdain for much of Dreikurs s philosophy.Central to the book s theme is that when dealing with children, one should take a position of cooperation and mutual respect Shared responsibility iseffective than authoritarian control after all, one of the strongest needs is that of belonging, a view shared by Abraham Maslow and Larry Bedentro in their respective writings.Positive Discipline is useful for working with all kinds of children, even those with emotional handicaps, as it takes the approach that one must work with children to find a solution to a problem This belief is based on seven core principles in the book The child is capable of coping and finding a solution The child is an important part of a primary relationship The child has control over what happens to him or her The child should cultivate strong intrapersonal skills The child should cultivate strong interpersonal skills The child should be able to respond to the limits and limitations of everyday life The child needs strong judgment and moral skills.In short, the aim of Positive Discipline is winning children over rather than winning over children Misbehavior on the part of the child should be dealt with logical consequences solutions, not retribution The logical consequences should offer the child time for reflection Punishment, on the other hand, leads one or a combination of the following resentment, revenge, rebellion, or retreat it does nothing to teach responsibility or in the words of Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, the ethics of responsibility Why do children act out Misbehavior can result from one of four mistaken goals Attention The need to be noticed, whether through positive or negative means Power A feeling that the child has no control over his or her destiny Revenge A need to get back at an adult the child perceives as a threat Assumed inadequacy The feeling on the part of the child that he or she is incapable of dealing with the situation.It is important for the adult to understand each child and deal with the problem within the correct context, in other words, as Korczak advocated, getting into the child s world Positive acts should be met with encouragement instead of praise, as Kohn advocates, with the goal that the child will be able to function well on his or her own in the future Here lies the book s greatest strength

  9. Lisa Lisa says:

    I love the concept of the book and while haphazardly implementing what I was learning as I read, my daughter 5 endorsed the book I saw her copying the cover and asked her what she was doing and she replied that she liked it When I inquired why, she told me that I don t yell as much since I started reading it And while I don t yell, I must raise my voicethan I realize andthan I want to So, I asked why she was copying the cover, I already have and am reading the book She rep I love the concept of the book and while haphazardly implementing what I was learning as I read, my daughter 5 endorsed the book I saw her copying the cover and asked her what she was doing and she replied that she liked it When I inquired why, she told me that I don t yell as much since I started reading it And while I don t yell, I must raise my voicethan I realize andthan I want to So, I asked why she was copying the cover, I already have and am reading the book She replied, It s for daddy, so he ll read it We have not implemented much at all yet, but just being mindful that I don t have to make her feel bad to do better has already dramatically improved the family dynamic

  10. Tin Tin says:

    The most helpful parenting book I have read so far The principles taught here are entirely new to me, as I grew up with very strict and controlling parents, but each chapter was detailed in a way that s easy to digest and really, they do make a lot of sense There are things like family meetings that I still find it hard to apply in real life, as our child is still very young, but I am happy that I have unconsciously been applying some of the methods taught here already Glad to have a hard The most helpful parenting book I have read so far The principles taught here are entirely new to me, as I grew up with very strict and controlling parents, but each chapter was detailed in a way that s easy to digest and really, they do make a lot of sense There are things like family meetings that I still find it hard to apply in real life, as our child is still very young, but I am happy that I have unconsciously been applying some of the methods taught here already Glad to have a hard copy of the book so that I can revisit it again when our daughter is older The best part that resonated to me The emphasized that although individuals who have been punished and been subjected to punitive discipline turned out fine, they would have learnedhad they been disciplinedpositively There was no blame or shame in the author s tone, which I love Definitely recommend this to all parents

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