Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose

Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose

Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic ➟ [Epub] ❤ Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic By Mary Sheedy Kurcinka ➩ – Centrumpowypadkowe.co.uk Newly revised, featuring the most up to date research, effective strategies, and real life storiesThe spirited child often called difficult or strong willed possesses traits we value in adults yet fin Newly revised, featuring the most up to Spirited Child: PDF Í date research, effective strategies, and real life storiesThe spirited child often called difficult or strong willed possesses traits we value in adults yet find challenging Raising Your Kindle - in children Research shows that spirited kids are wired to be by temperament, they are intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent, and uncomfortable with change than the average child In this revised edition of the Your Spirited Child: PDF/EPUB Ä award winning classic, voted one of the top twenty books for parents, Kurcinka provides vivid examples and a refreshingly positive viewpoint Raising Your Spirited Child will help you understand your child s and your own temperamental traitsdiscover the power of positive rather than negative labelscope with the tantrums and power struggles when they do occurplan for success with a simple four step programdevelop strategies for handling mealtimes, sibling rivalry, bedtimes, holidays, and school, among other situations.


10 thoughts on “Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic

  1. Rebecca Rebecca says:

    Is is too much of an exaggeration to say this book saved my life Well, perhaps it is, but in all honesty, this book improved my quality of life and helped me understand my 3 year old s personality My child is definitelyintense and sensitive than many other children but now I ve learned to value and appreciate her in a new way I also know how to be an advocate for her in preschool and future school settings Seriously, I am a better mommy due to the facts and advice found in this book.


  2. Erin Erin says:

    warning this review is kind of long because I want to remember certain things before I return this to the library.I have had this book recommended to me by several people but had never read it because I didn t think my kids were spirited They aren t hyper, but I was totally misunderstanding the use of the word The opening page of this books says I secretly needed to talk with other parents who understood what is was like to live with a child who could scream for 45 minutes because his warning this review is kind of long because I want to remember certain things before I return this to the library.I have had this book recommended to me by several people but had never read it because I didn t think my kids were spirited They aren t hyper, but I was totally misunderstanding the use of the word The opening page of this books says I secretly needed to talk with other parents who understood what is was like to live with a child who could scream for 45 minutes because his toast had been cut in triangles when he was expecting rectangles That has happened several times in our house so, when I read that, I knew this book was for me After reading this book I would say that two of my kids fall in the spirited category and one in the spunky category And hopefully the last one is in the mellow easy category This book helped me understand my children better and gave me a few techniques for dealing with them I think mostly you have to learn what is best for your own child by trial and error, but this book helped me recognize that a child isn t trying to drive me crazy because she won t wear certain clothes or goes on and on about the scent at the hair place she is just extremely sensitive,so than I am, and now I recognize that I also found the discussion about introverts and extroverts helpful Introverts need time on their own to refuel They need to take a break from people when they have been overstimulated.A lot of it focussed on changing the labels we use to bepositive For instance one of my children is extremely perceptive This is a positive trait when it comes to artwork, she remembers details that others do not see But it becomes a problem when she is so distracted by all the details around her that she doesn t listen to directions This book recommended a soft touch and eye contact to be sure a child hears you Send your message in many different ways like writing, demonstrating, pictures, etc Keep directions simple so they don t get distracted by a list of steps.When lizzy was in one of her all out tantrums I skipped ahead to the chapter about tantrums It is mostly about prevention I know I shouldn t have taking her shopping close to her nap and lunch time but sometimes you just can t avoid it I was hoping for a sure fire way to end the tantrum, but it wasn t there It did help me recognize a pattern in her tantrums so hopefully I can do a littleprevention


  3. Skylar Burris Skylar Burris says:

    This verbose tome often seemed to take awhile to get to the point, but I preferred it to Taming Your Spirited Child it was a little less you re child is never wrong in its approach The self scoring section was helpful in giving me a general idea of where my kid fell on the scale and making me realize that she is perhapsspunky than spirited and that normal discipline methods probably still apply I did glean one or two helpful things from the book, the most useful of which has been her This verbose tome often seemed to take awhile to get to the point, but I preferred it to Taming Your Spirited Child it was a little less you re child is never wrong in its approach The self scoring section was helpful in giving me a general idea of where my kid fell on the scale and making me realize that she is perhapsspunky than spirited and that normal discipline methods probably still apply I did glean one or two helpful things from the book, the most useful of which has been her instruction not to use Please when issuing directives and to use as few words of possible i.e Not Please get in your seat now so we can go but Seat Now I was so used to using please in everything I said to teach my kids politeness that I didn t realize they werelikely to take these statements as requests than as directives But I actually have noticed a difference now that I have become, well,direct It was nice to see some improvement from something so simple Most of her advice, however, just involves adapting yourself to your kid s personality, which you do have to do up to a point with a spirited kid so you yourself can beat peace with the whirlwind, but the thing is I want my kid to learn to adapt herself, because the WORLD isn t going to adapt itself to her The book didn t offer much help in that area It gave techniques to handle your kid, but most people your child deals with aren t going to have the motivation, knowledge, or patience to go through all of that


  4. Sarah Whitney Sarah Whitney says:

    MY NOTES QUOTES AND USEFUL BITS This is called the Pygmalion Effect and has been well documented by researchers The reality is that children learn what hey are from others in their lives Think about ht e spirited children you know What words do you use to describe them Do they sound like the million dollar words created by advertising companies, words that can make you wish you could have evenchildren who are spirited Are they the kind of descriptors that would make others envy you t MY NOTES QUOTES AND USEFUL BITS This is called the Pygmalion Effect and has been well documented by researchers The reality is that children learn what hey are from others in their lives Think about ht e spirited children you know What words do you use to describe them Do they sound like the million dollar words created by advertising companies, words that can make you wish you could have evenchildren who are spirited Are they the kind of descriptors that would make others envy you the opportunity of raising a spirited child Tags that create, warm, tender feelings Labels that make you puff with pride, smile in appreciation, and chuckle with enjoyment Positive words that focus on what s right instead of what s wrong To be perfectly honest, it s unlikely Page 23 Research has documented it, when we are happy and feeling good about ourselves, we select higher goals, perform better, and persist longer on tasks And although your child may initially respond with a bit of skepticism, if you keep it up, eventually he will believe your words and becomeopen to your guidance Words really do make a difference Page 32 It s easy for a child to build a healthy since of self esteem when the words used to describe him are the ones like creative, curious, and zestful Words that create positive images wrap our kids in a protective armor, giving them the strength they need to make the behavior changes that actually turn the inappropriate behavior into acceptable actions In other words, kids who like themselves, behave themselves.Page 32 Once children have learned to respond to the cues their bodies are sending them and understand time out as a healthy opportunity to deal with their stress, they can call for one themselves In fact, you may see your children slide out of the action and into their room for a quick break all by themselves Intuitively they are bringing their bodies back into the green zone This is especially true if you have created a sign with the words I need a hug, or I need your attention on it that they can hand to a parent when time out alone isn t enough to pull the game plan back together Even three year olds can begin to appreciate the power of words instead of tantrums to get their needs met Page 126 People yell when they are angry and frustrated Mind you, I am not advocating yelling, but it is a reality In some cultural groups it is very acceptable In others it may not be as widely approved, but it remains a fact of life We are all aware of the traumas children experience when they lie in their beds listening to their parents screaming at each other, or stand there, powerless victims, as their parents rage at them This is verbal abuse, which studies over the last three decades have shown can be evenpsychologically harmful than the physical assault of punches and kicks This kind of yelling is not acceptable Page 139 Spirited kids are our future politicians, lawyers, salespeople, and agents of change If we don t want to spend our time arguing with them every day, we have to be sure our basic ground rules are very clear Rules describe what behavior you expect Your family s rules may not be the same as mine, but what s important is that there aren t too many Spirited kids test every single rule Are you sure it s a rule they seem to question Is it true that it s a rule every time Are you really going to insist I follow it Do you follow it too Rules are your battle lines The fights you are willing to dig your feet in and be as persistent as your spirted child In my classes I ve whittled the guidelines for rules down to three basic questions 1 Is the behavior safe 2 Is it respectful of self and others 3 Is it respectful of the environment If not, it s the adult s job to help the kids stop When you are very clear about what your rules are and why you have them, you will feel confident When you insist that your three year old take a nap or at least have a rest period, you don t have to question yourself when he starts to put up a fuss You know it s important for him and his safety, since preschoolers who gothan eight hours without sleep are 86 percentlikely to end up in an emergency room with injuries Page 165CHECK STIMULATION LEVELSI always tell parents in my classes that if they ever feel as if they are the only parents in the world with a sensitive spirited child, they should drop everything and head for the largest, noisiest, most congested store in their area There they will find spirited kids dropping like little bombs two down in aisle one three in aisle four the candy shelf and six in aisle seven the toy department At first glance in will appear that the explosions are triggered by a refusal to buy a candy bar, a desire to push the cart, or some other insignificant issue The real trigger, however, is hidden in the fluorescent lights, piped in music, flashing signs, colorful packages, and crush of people that createstimulation than a sensitive child can endure, especially if his or her energy bank is low Pp180 1 Remember introverts only like to share feelings after they ve had a chance to think about them Let them know you re available when they re ready to talk, but give them the time and space they need to think through their emotions before you expect them to share them If you push them, they ll only withdraw Introverts need their space.Page 188 Sensitivity combines with intensity to make spirited kids very tenderhearted They form deep and lasting relationships They have a tremendous sense of justice They are easily hurt It is critical that they understand both their sensitivity and intensity, to realize that life may have dumped a bucket of water on their head but they aren t drowning They will survive Page 188 Choosing the right words is critical to winning your child s cooperation If you want your child to do something and don t wish to debate it, be sure your message is a clear direction It s time for bed, You may play in the yard, It s time to leave, Wash your hands before eating, and The rule is you must wear shoes in school These are all straightforward directives They clearly and simply tell the child exactly what he may do Make sure you are not unintentionally blurring your direction by adding the words please or okay or even raising your voice at the end of your statement as though asking a question, when there really isn t any choice Page 205 If you don t want to be hit, bitten, whined at, hung on, or disgusted, you have to teach your children how to get your attention Decide how you would like them to approach you and then show them Do you want words What words I want attention, I need a hug, or Please listen to me Do you want actions a tap on the shoulder or the shaking of your hand Do you need eye contact Do you want them to stand in front of you Do you want them to pull you down to their level and talk to you There isn t one right way, but just as you have to learn how to get your child s attention, your child has to learn how to get yours Next time he whines, say, Stop I m listening I think you are telling me you want attention Say it with words Or if she hits you, say, Stop Hitting hurts If you want my attention, take my hand Then you have to be willing to garner your forces and give your attention to her Page 211Spirited children adapt slowly to transitions any transition because change can easily put them into a state of alert, ready to move into the red zone of fight, flight, or freeze When the intensity goes up, adaptability goes down To shift gears, to pass from one activity, place, or topic to another requires a wrenching, grinding effort on their part Transitions are the virus that can destroy the system If you can t even get the kids out the door, in the door, to the table, from the table, or cleaned up without a major hassle, the good parts of the day lose their sparkle The day feels rotten Listening to their vehement squeals of protest make you feel that a major overhaul is needed to correct the problem Fortunately a mere tune up will do the job page 216 use words establish a routine allow time forewarning is critical allow time for closure limit the number of transitions help them deal with disappointmentpp216 229 You can help take the sting out of disappointments by playing what if with them Before an event or departure occurs, talk through the things that could possibly happen For example, if you are going to a movie, ask you child, What if we got there and all the tickets were sold out How would you feel What would we do Or, What if you went to a birthday part and they served fruit salad instead of birthday cake How would you feel What would you do Or, What if you went to swimming lessons and they called everyone s name but yours What if teaches kids to be good problem solvers and sets them up for success If the what if actually happens, they re already prepared They know how they feel, they have words for it, and they know what to do Even if you haven t quite guessed the what if situation correctly, you ve probably come close enough to make comparisons Doesn t this raise anxieties parents ask me Potentially it could, but the emphasis of what if is not on what terrible disappointment or calamity could happen The emphasis is on our confidence in their ability to solve the problem This is a supportive, comforting message Kids don t become anxious when they feel in control Pp 229 230 Megan Gunnar at the University of Minnesota has found that even infants show elevated levels of stress hormones when their parents are stressed While all children will respond this way, your spirited child picks it up like a top of the line vacuum Truly this child is your family s emotional barometer His spill over tantrums are a warning sign that can feel overwhelming when you are already at the end of your rope.Page 270DEVELOPMENTAL SURGES Kids go through developmental surges You can mark it on your calendar Somewhere around their birthday and their half birthday, you can expect trouble They get cranky and uncooperative They might be incapable of doing what they were able to do just a few weeks before Nothing seems right They re easily frustrated Every time you turn around, they re crying about something else They won t cooperate They want to be held and then push you away when you hold them They re angry angry at you, at the world, and at themselves They areeasily upset by anything The developmental theorists tell us that this is a time of disintegration, a time when children are moving from one stage of development to another Their inner systems are restructuring, creating a new,complex way of understanding the world Page 272 Ask your kids if they know what the rules in your house are for tantrums If they don t know, sit down and talk about them, but choose your discussion time wisely Select a time when everyone is well rested, cool, calm, and relaxed Then you can actually have fun with it Kids as young as three can develop the rules Go ahead, ask them It is fascinating what they have to say If your spirited child is an infant or toddler, know what your rules are and say them out loud so your child will begin to learn them At our house the rules for tantrums look like this It s all right to cry and throw yourself on the bed You can stomp your feet, yell like Tarzan, and ask to be held It s not all right to hit, kick, pinch, scream in someone s ear, throw things around the room, blame others, spit, scratch, grab or swear Page 281 Now select night sleep time If, for example, your preschool arises at 7 00 AM every morning and takes a ninety minute nap, sleep time will be 8 30 PM so that he will get a total of twelve hours sleep in a twenty four hour period If he s school aged and arises at seven, he ll need to be asleep by 9 00 PM This is not bedtime, this is sleep time the moment you want you child to actually be sound asleepNow think about your child How long does it take him to prepare for bed and calm his body and his brain so that he s ready for sleep Most children will need approximately forty five minutes to an hour So if you want your child to be asleep by 8 30, that means bedtime needs to be at 7 30 or 7 45 PM at the latest.Page 323 There are hordes of books on sleep problems that will encourage you to let you child cry it out Fortunately, even these authors are beginning to recognize that there is a flaw in this advice Supposedly the child stops crying after a few minutes Spirited kids don t Left to their own devices, intense, spirited children become overwhelmed by their powerful reactions They may be unable to stop, crying for hours instead of minutes, not because they are out to get you but because of their physiology They getupset as the minutes tick away The bedtime battle is extended instead of being shortened Some children react so strongly that they will vomit THIS WAS ELI Some experts raise a warning that to respond sympathetically is to be controlled by your child If they vomit, they advise, clean it up and put them back to bed But small children don t vomit to control their parents they vomit because they are stressed They also rarely vomit in a neat little pile There is nothing worse than walking into a room with vomit sprayed on the walls, the carpet, stuffed animals, and each individual bar of the crib If your child is prone to vomiting, to to him, help him to take deep breaths and calm down so that he won t regurgitate Your support at this point will save you both a great deal of frustration and discomfort when you are much to tired to deal with it AND I LEARNED THIS LESSON QUICKLY Page 326UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN INTROVERTS AND EXTROVERTS Oftentimes when I talk with parents who are worried about their child s social skills, I realize the real issue is understanding the differences between introverts and extroverts It is important to remember that popularity or social skills cannot be measured by the number of friends your child does or does not have In chapter 5 I explained how introverts and extroverts interact with others Introverts are frequently not given full credit for their social skills because they areselective with their friendships If you are an extroverted parent, you may worry that your introverted child doesn t have friends because he is not eager to invite other children over to play Remember that introverts form deep, long lasting relationships with a few good friends Their social skills may be excellent they simply areparticular and take longer to form their relationships If your child is playing successfully with at least one other child, you probably don t need to worry He has social skills, He is just being very selective in how he uses them Remember, Introverts enjoy and need time alone Being alone and being lonely are not the same thing to an introvert pp 416 7 Why isn t it easy to send kids off to school You d think we d be happy appreciative of the break And perhaps you are It is a relief, a milestone Still, you may find your eyes filling, your vision blurred as soon as your son or daughter mounts the school bus steps for the first time alone or releases your hand and enters that preschool classroom leaving you behind She s on her own to face the world You gulp, hoping that she will be treasured by those she encounters rather than discussed as an oddity or troublemaker But you don t know and you stand there praying that she will be successful, that she will enjoy school, make friends, and bring a smile rather than a frown to her teacher s face Spirited kids can prosper in school You can find them serving as student council leaders, in the starring roles of the school plays, as members of the winning teams, and in the enhanced learning programs They can be successful in a Montessori school, in a local public school, in a parochial school, or in a private school They type or location of the school doesn t really matter What does matter is that individual differences are respected and that parents, teachers, and kids are working together In a school where this occurs, you can see, feel, and hear things that let you know spirit blooms here.Pp 440 1


  5. Tracey Tracey says:

    Read this book and I swear its written about my oldest son Really helped me understand him and better deal with some of the issues we were having I completely changed my way of discipline and also changed some of the situations where I realised he would become over stimulated and therefore this would cause problems Having read this book after a few months of me changing my patterns and the things we did he became a different child I recommend this to any parent that has a spirited child, it Read this book and I swear its written about my oldest son Really helped me understand him and better deal with some of the issues we were having I completely changed my way of discipline and also changed some of the situations where I realised he would become over stimulated and therefore this would cause problems Having read this book after a few months of me changing my patterns and the things we did he became a different child I recommend this to any parent that has a spirited child, it described the extrovert, introvert, gives examples of personality types and issues Great reference book.It was a relief for me to read this book, having been accused of having an A.D.D, ADHD, full on hypo child, to being ostracised at play group, gym tots, little kickers soccer etc it made me realise that I was getting my son to par take in activities that would over stimulate him as he was unable to take control of his emotions The other relief was that there are obviously heaps of other kids out there like this so it did help me to feel normal, rather than completely abnormal which was how I was made to feel by the uneducated bogan that gave me a piece of her mind at playgroup Honestly I would never pass comment about how docile, inactive, dumb looking someone else s child is and ask whether they are retarded because all they do is sit in one place and play with the same toy for half and hour, so really what gives them the right to make a comment about mine


  6. Dana Dana says:

    I cried when I started this book It was such a relief to know that there were other parents out there like me, with kids like mine It was validating to know that some children DO requireinput than others I felt like my hard work was finally recognized As I continued, what stood out, even beyond the helpful advice and tips for handling the intense traits of a spirited child, was her positive perspective I was able to shed the burden I was feeling about having a spirited child and loo I cried when I started this book It was such a relief to know that there were other parents out there like me, with kids like mine It was validating to know that some children DO requireinput than others I felt like my hard work was finally recognized As I continued, what stood out, even beyond the helpful advice and tips for handling the intense traits of a spirited child, was her positive perspective I was able to shed the burden I was feeling about having a spirited child and look at these traits and challenges as a very special gift A gift yes, but one that definitely requires some fine tuning That s where she breaks down her definition of spirited into separate temperamental components and what they look like, and then how to respond in a positive way The practical advice is the meat of the book.Along the way not only did I learn about parenting, but I learned about myself, my childhood, my marriage, and about relationships in general This book is a rare gem that transformed the way I think


  7. Cat Cat says:

    I found this book stunningly useful and reassuring Kurcinka emphasizes that those larger than life size reactions your preschooler are having come from her real reactions to things and that understanding the temperamental sources of some of those reactions like being slow to adapt to a new situation or being high energy and needing to move can allow you to handle them better and to facilitate them where you can and redirect them where you can t While reading Kurcinka s book, I found myself b I found this book stunningly useful and reassuring Kurcinka emphasizes that those larger than life size reactions your preschooler are having come from her real reactions to things and that understanding the temperamental sources of some of those reactions like being slow to adapt to a new situation or being high energy and needing to move can allow you to handle them better and to facilitate them where you can and redirect them where you can t While reading Kurcinka s book, I found myself becomingsympathetic to my daughter s frustrations and outbursts The best part, I think, is that Kurcinka allows you the parent to have emotional reactions even acknowledges that you might be spirited too and encourages indeed, insists upon monitoring your own emotional reactions and responding to them taking a break, for example, when your persistent kid is about to make you explode In addition, and this seems so smart to me, she encourages you to narrate your process of handling emotions to your child in order to make her process of doing the same thing feelnatural, normal, accepted It s important to Kurcinka that we talk about children s intensity in positive terms, that we recognize that this emotional receptivity and expressivity can be a major strength in life, and that we overtly rather than implicitly teach the process of recognizing and managing these emotions.The book is filled with practical advice that I ve been implementing and finding successful since I first started reading it Best of all, there s no parent blaming, no find your inner Zen master, no your kid will know if you are faking the authority that you possess This book is all about recognizing the cues from your child that might signal a big reaction is coming and then encouraging her to be a collaborative problem solver This idea of finding the yes coming to a conclusion that satisfies all members of the family and not just the parent is so helpful My daughter is very intelligent and very strong willed, and when she sees the steps of decision making and feels heard, she becomes newly calm in a situation where she might have been gearing up to fly off the handle.My one hesitation about the book and this is a small one is that the process of talking about emotions, finding the yes, arranging routines and settings to maximize your child s potential for success, feels very time and resource consuming, and I also worry that it communicates to your child that there is going to be a lot of time space negotiation dedicated to them in the future in the world This is not exactly the same hesitation that Kurcinka reports from a number of her parents, whom she says have been raised withtraditional discipline I see how Kurcinka s system of problem solving and compromising is consistent with boundary setting when it is needed, and I also think that autocratic edicts from on high teach less than explanations and expectation setting do But the whole idea of reading a five hundred page book about how to patiently negotiate with your child sets up the fact that Kurcinka expects that you will treat child rearing as one of the major centers of your life, and I worry about the child who learns that they are the center of household life and then goes out into the world to discover that no one else feels that way I suspect that Kurcinka would say that when we narrate emotional management and highlight collaborative problem solving, we give the child the tools to handle those threatening or difficult situations on their own And so far, in my house, it s really been working It s no exaggeration to say this book felt like a lifesaver to me


  8. Tiffany Tiffany says:

    My sister Amy recommended this book when Ellie was a toddler, she d had a friend who d used it with her son and loved it It was very interesting, and gave me a lot of insight into not only my kids, but Jerem I loved how the author puts all of the characteristics we usually try to squash out of children into a positive light It also tells you how to deal with the daily trials of having a spirited child how to avoid the battles I m a mellow person, and so was Hannah, so when spunky Megan My sister Amy recommended this book when Ellie was a toddler, she d had a friend who d used it with her son and loved it It was very interesting, and gave me a lot of insight into not only my kids, but Jerem I loved how the author puts all of the characteristics we usually try to squash out of children into a positive light It also tells you how to deal with the daily trials of having a spirited child how to avoid the battles I m a mellow person, and so was Hannah, so when spunky Megan and spirited Ellie came into our family, I just didn t know how to deal with their needs and they really are needs, not just whims One of the best parts was about Introverts and Extroverts, and how some people need to be around other people to refuel me and the other kids and some people need to be alone to refuel Jerem and Ellie Very educating


  9. Ginger Ginger says:

    I found a LOT to really like about this book There were moments when it actually brought me to tears, because what I was reading was, for once, EXACTLY like reading about my kidand my reactions In fact, I m going to make my husband read this because I think there are some really important observations we can use to be better parents for our spunky spirited child There are parts of the book that don t apply to us, which I think would be the case for many parents But what parenting book is I found a LOT to really like about this book There were moments when it actually brought me to tears, because what I was reading was, for once, EXACTLY like reading about my kidand my reactions In fact, I m going to make my husband read this because I think there are some really important observations we can use to be better parents for our spunky spirited child There are parts of the book that don t apply to us, which I think would be the case for many parents But what parenting book is 100% applicable to every family Overall, though, I found this book to be one that spoke to me about a kid like mine in ways I found positive and reassuring.I do wish that there wereexamples of how to handle discipline, tantrums, etc The book focuses most of its energy on getting the reader parent to accept and acknowledge how the temperaments and traits of their child may be causing the conflicts in the home, and less time on how to deal with those conflicts once you know those temperaments I did read an older version of the book, so perhapsrecent editions have added to this area All in all, I think this will be a book I come back to often in the coming days weeks months


  10. Jennifer Jennifer says:

    I began this with a lot of cynicism, since every other parenting book I d ever read seemed to be talking about a child quite different than mine Fortunately, this book made a huge impact on me, my husband, and the way we understand and appreciate our daughter I only wish I would have read it earlier it would have prevented a lot of frustration and hurt feelings I love that the book s premise isn t to fix your child it unapologetically says, this is who your kid is, you can t change em I began this with a lot of cynicism, since every other parenting book I d ever read seemed to be talking about a child quite different than mine Fortunately, this book made a huge impact on me, my husband, and the way we understand and appreciate our daughter I only wish I would have read it earlier it would have prevented a lot of frustration and hurt feelings I love that the book s premise isn t to fix your child it unapologetically says, this is who your kid is, you can t change em, so this is how you learn to cope and appreciate them What a refreshing thought As an added bonus, I never expected to read a book in order to help me understand my child and, along the way, gain so much understanding of myself Now if I can only find a book that deals with raising your spirited cat


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