Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner

Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner


10 thoughts on “Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline

  1. Ali Ali says:

    Well, 2 stars might seem to be a bit harsh, but i ll leave it at that.The book is not that bad, it is OK, it s written in rather simple, lively manner, which is easy to digest and relate to.However my problem with this book is that it simplifies things too much obvious statements, the likes of gentle guidance , respect ,etc, etc..i agree with all that, no doubt, but it s like stating the facts of grass being green and the sky being blueMoreover, reactions of different children to the same Well, 2 stars might seem to be a bit harsh, but i ll leave it at that.The book is not that bad, it is OK, it s written in rather simple, lively manner, which is easy to digest and relate to.However my problem with this book is that it simplifies things too much obvious statements, the likes of gentle guidance , respect ,etc, etc..i agree with all that, no doubt, but it s like stating the facts of grass being green and the sky being blueMoreover, reactions of different children to the same tactics can vary quite dramatically What works for one, can be absolutely useless for another The book did not go very far on the subject of those cases.So, nothing really new, though pleasant, easy read


  2. Kressel Housman Kressel Housman says:

    To me, the measure of a good parenting or psychology book is if it changes my life, and by that standard, this book was EXCELLENT It divides parenting styles into three basic types 1 brickwall My way OR ELSE 2 jellyfish house rules are rarely and inconsistently applied and 3 backbone the right approach, flexible yet firm.It was unpleasant to see what a jellyfish I ve been, but while I was reading the book, I really felt myself developing backbone The author gives specific ways yo To me, the measure of a good parenting or psychology book is if it changes my life, and by that standard, this book was EXCELLENT It divides parenting styles into three basic types 1 brickwall My way OR ELSE 2 jellyfish house rules are rarely and inconsistently applied and 3 backbone the right approach, flexible yet firm.It was unpleasant to see what a jellyfish I ve been, but while I was reading the book, I really felt myself developing backbone The author gives specific ways you can do this Basically, rules should be so logical that they needn t take too much thinking on the parents part I ve slacked off a bit without the book, but it was so worth it, I think I ll buy my own copy and look into it to keep the lessons fresh Highly recommended, even if your kids are still little


  3. Mandy Mandy says:

    Can t say I got much out of this book Its premise is a good one, and I appreciate the general advice about treating kids with dignity and respect even when correcting them especially when correcting them But for a book on positive parenting, its tone is quite judgmental The author classifies parenting styles into 3 types two are horrid and the third is ideal The problem with this approach, as I see it, is that not many people are going to want to identify with the exaggeratedly awful par Can t say I got much out of this book Its premise is a good one, and I appreciate the general advice about treating kids with dignity and respect even when correcting them especially when correcting them But for a book on positive parenting, its tone is quite judgmental The author classifies parenting styles into 3 types two are horrid and the third is ideal The problem with this approach, as I see it, is that not many people are going to want to identify with the exaggeratedly awful parenting styles and thus resist any comparison to them This creates a roadblock to learning instead of being helpful Moreover, the description of the ideal parenting style is often so vague as to be impossible to emulate Finally, the later chapters attempt to provide advice on specific problem areas like mealtime and toilet training But these areas are covered in such a cursory and vague manner even these chapters were not helpful I forced myself to finish, hoping to find some nugget in there somewhere Not sure whether I did


  4. Dory Hamlin Dory Hamlin says:

    Our job as parents is not to control our children, but to teach guide them To teach them how to think, not what to think, so that they learn how to be functional, respectful, thinking adults I just finished reading this book for the 3rd time I read it first several years ago before I had any kids, and now have read it twice since the birth of my own child I have read continue to read a lot of parenting books, and books of the science of brain growth I keep coming back to this book Our job as parents is not to control our children, but to teach guide them To teach them how to think, not what to think, so that they learn how to be functional, respectful, thinking adults I just finished reading this book for the 3rd time I read it first several years ago before I had any kids, and now have read it twice since the birth of my own child I have read continue to read a lot of parenting books, and books of the science of brain growth I keep coming back to this book as the if you read only 1 parenting book, read THIS one many parenting books on the market, this is not a personal theory that hasn t really been tested on kids or maybe only tested on the author s kids these tools were developed tested on hundreds of kids, many of them being special needs or difficult kids To quote from her website Her uniquely effective parenting and teaching strategies were developed through her years of training in sociology, special education, and philosophy, as well as field tested through her experiences as a classroom teacher, laboratory school instructor, university instructor, seminar leader, volunteer in Rwanda, and mother of three grown children Even though the author does not use the following terms, her parenting tools absolutely fit under parenting styles of Gentle Parenting Grace Based Discipline Attachment Parenting The author stresses the importance of giving children as much choice as possible at every stage of life, because it is by having choices making decisions that children learn how to make good decisions Things like creating a choice where there isn t choice at bedtime, rather than put your PJs on now The parent can ask Do you want Mom to help put your PJs on, or Dad to help By giving kids choices, we give them ownership of their lives of what happens to them Having ownership control of themselves effectively diffuses rebellion before it begins Or, as the author points out, children will always rebel either in little steps throughout toddlerhood, or all at once as teenagers You can t choose IF your child rebels, only when I have personally seen the effective of this approach with my own dau While all the parents around me talk about how no is their toddler s favorite word, I have a 2 yr old that is strong willed, independent, happy, energetic yet rarely does she respond with No While No is definitely a word that children need to hear, using it too much causes it to lose meaning value, so the author offers 3 alternatives yes, later hard for them to fight a yes, and later can be 5 sec later or 5 days later Give me a minute which can allow the parent time to think through the child s request give a good response instead of a fast but wrong response and convince me which requires the child to think through the issue themselves come up with reasons to change the parent s mind which, in turn, teaches the child how to THINK instead of just acting on their wants


  5. Emily Madill Emily Madill says:

    Kids are worth it is an informative and functional parenting book The main initiative of the book is to raise children to be confident self disciplined and comfortable thinking for themselves Through examples and stories, Coloroso gives suggestions and tools that offer children opportunities to make decisions and feel empowered In her book Coloroso describes three different parenting philosophies and the importance in becoming aware of the tools that lead to destruction, and tools that l Kids are worth it is an informative and functional parenting book The main initiative of the book is to raise children to be confident self disciplined and comfortable thinking for themselves Through examples and stories, Coloroso gives suggestions and tools that offer children opportunities to make decisions and feel empowered In her book Coloroso describes three different parenting philosophies and the importance in becoming aware of the tools that lead to destruction, and tools that lead to success in raising resilient, responsible children and teenagers I like that she used examples for two year old tantrums, and at the same time addressed some of the issues that arise in the teenage years I like that her examples and suggestions are applicable to real life situations and that she believes quick fixes are not long term solutions.One of the most poignant points in the book for me is when Barbara Coloroso quotes a conversation she had with parents of a teenager who thought their son had changed from being a great kid to a problem child In the book Barbara says to the parents You know what He hasn t changed From the time he was young, he dressed the way you told him to dress he acted the way you told him to act he said the things you told him to say He s been listening to somebody else tell him what to do He s been doing it He hasn t changed He is still listening to somebody else tell him what to do The problem is, it isn t you any it s his peers The kid hasn t learned how to think Barbara is an internationally renowned author and presenter on topics relating to parenting, teaching, and school discipline among others She has an extensive background in the classroom and first hand experience being a mother of three Her website listed above hasinformation on her workshops as well as resources and handouts on anti bullying Barbara is a powerful role model to parents, educators and women after reading her book, I m a huge fan My mother in law gave this book to our family as a gift the Christmas before she passed away She was a mother of three amazing kids who turned into amazing adults one of whom is my husband , she was a primary teacher for over twenty years and educated and parented using the same philosophies Barbara writes about It has been almost a year since my Mom in law passed, and it felt like the perfect time to bring out this book I am thankful for the lessons and tools presented in this book It is evenspecial as it feels like they came as a gift from my children s Nana If you have children, plan to have children or are in the education field, this book is an excellent resource It is one I plan to keep readily available to help me with the different things that come up in raising responsible children Kids are worth it is available worldwide throughand other major book retailers


  6. Susan Bazzett-Griffith Susan Bazzett-Griffith says:

    Meh This book is basically the same as Love and Logic also meh I didn t learn much about specific tools to hone inner discipline in my son, as the title implies And though I understand the sentiment behind the constant theme of treat the child in a way so that they can retain their dignity , I often found myself thinking about scenes from my son s childhood where he would do things like run through the house naked with half a turd hanging from his ass because he didn t want to poop on th Meh This book is basically the same as Love and Logic also meh I didn t learn much about specific tools to hone inner discipline in my son, as the title implies And though I understand the sentiment behind the constant theme of treat the child in a way so that they can retain their dignity , I often found myself thinking about scenes from my son s childhood where he would do things like run through the house naked with half a turd hanging from his ass because he didn t want to poop on the toilet, and wondering, Really He had dignity I don t think so The constant referrals to the Brick Wall, Jellyfish, and Backbone parent also grated on my nerves, as the three styles are just cutesy renamed versions of authoritarian, permissive jellyfish a, or hands off is called jellyfish b, sigh and authoritative Nothing original, no original thoughts as to what is best and why Two stars because there were a couple of useful tidbits that I will try to be better about incorporating into my own parenting, my favorite being instead of saying, No, to a lot of requests, I like the idea of yes, later instead Also appreciated the examples of ways for a child to make his her mistakes right with acts of restitution and contrition Overall, though, not a read I would recommend specifically to any friends or family


  7. Robin Penney Robin Penney says:

    I learned so much from this book It has changed the way I treat my children I give them ownership for the mistakes they make, and help them to feel okay about making those mistakes in the first place I no longer believe that punishment has to include an element of feeling bad about what you did Instead, I help them to fix the problem But I don t rescue them, or clean up for them, like I did before Also, norewards Threw out the sticker charts Teaching them that they do things beca I learned so much from this book It has changed the way I treat my children I give them ownership for the mistakes they make, and help them to feel okay about making those mistakes in the first place I no longer believe that punishment has to include an element of feeling bad about what you did Instead, I help them to fix the problem But I don t rescue them, or clean up for them, like I did before Also, norewards Threw out the sticker charts Teaching them that they do things becasue they are the right things to do, not because you are going to get something for it So much , but these are my main take aways from this book


  8. Marissa Morrison Marissa Morrison says:

    I could tell right away that I was going to like this book, because Coloroso includes quotes from wonderful authors like Alfi Kohn and Gavin De Becker She advocates not treating children in a way that you yourself wouldn t want to be treated, and to only discipline using techniques that leave a kid s dignity in tact Some tips from this book When you have to criticize, criticize the problem, not the kid An effective way to do this is to say, That s not right rather than that s wrong That I could tell right away that I was going to like this book, because Coloroso includes quotes from wonderful authors like Alfi Kohn and Gavin De Becker She advocates not treating children in a way that you yourself wouldn t want to be treated, and to only discipline using techniques that leave a kid s dignity in tact Some tips from this book When you have to criticize, criticize the problem, not the kid An effective way to do this is to say, That s not right rather than that s wrong That s not right encourages a child to figure out what needs fixing.Her four steps of discipline are 1 Show children what they have done wrong, 2 Give them ownership of the problem, 3 Help them find ways of solving the problem, and 4 Leave their dignity intact Number three can include restitution cleaning up, fixing damaged items, etc , resolution figuring out ways to prevent this situation from happening again , and reconciliation healing with the person who has been hurt Some alternatives to no You can do it later Give me a minute to think about this Convince me One technique for conflict resolution is to give the two people one notebook and one pen and ask them to write down one version of the story An alternative to time outs is to have the kid take as much time alone as needed to calm down Give three options because two options can make it seem like one s good and one s bad, and because reflecting on three options takes some thinking, which is likely to help the kid calm down e.g Do you want to calm down on the couch, in your bedroom, or in the rocking chair If the child refuses to select a place, then she gets to calm down in the current location.When dealing with an angry kid who is being aggressive, give a hug and rock the child in your arms Even if this doesn t calm her down, you will feel better and be less temped to become aggressive in response.Coloroso is generally opposed to rewards and punishments When a consequence is necessary, she advices making positive statements Instead of saying Make your bed or you can t go out tonight, she would say, You can go out after you make your bed No matter what kind of a response parents get arguing, sulking, etc , she recommends sticking with a straightforward phrase like You can go out after you make your bed and repeating it as necessary


  9. Courtney Lotzer Courtney Lotzer says:

    This book defines three types of families, which really put life with children in perspective It is amazing the influence your own parents have on the way you do thingsI thought it was a great read It made me feel really good about my parenting philosophy and the relationships I have with the kids I am happy to say I am 90% Backbone parent It also really defined my childhood jellyfish I also related to one of the negative family types brickwall , which explained the harm you can do This book defines three types of families, which really put life with children in perspective It is amazing the influence your own parents have on the way you do thingsI thought it was a great read It made me feel really good about my parenting philosophy and the relationships I have with the kids I am happy to say I am 90% Backbone parent It also really defined my childhood jellyfish I also related to one of the negative family types brickwall , which explained the harm you can do to your children with this style I have always believed this, but never knew how to put it into words It is amazing that parents actually think this is the right way to do things, but again, it is all in the way you were brought up The Brickwall Family Kids are controlled, manipulated, and made to mind Their feelings are ignored, ridiculed, or negated Parents direct, supervise, lecture, order, threaten, remind and worry over the brickwall family is in essence a dictatorship, perhaps a benevolent one but a dictatorship nevertheless Power in a brickwall family equals control, and it all comes from the top I borrowed this book fromt the library, but am going to pick up my own copy to reference for years down the road


  10. Sara Sara says:

    I found this to be an interesting look at how both parents and teachers can treat their children and students with respect However, I think that parents could misinterpret when they begin to put Coloroso s parenting theories into practice I could definitely see how some parents could use her ideas and feel that they are granting their child independence, when in reality they are being jellyfish parents by letting their child do whatever he or she wants in order to exert this independence I found this to be an interesting look at how both parents and teachers can treat their children and students with respect However, I think that parents could misinterpret when they begin to put Coloroso s parenting theories into practice I could definitely see how some parents could use her ideas and feel that they are granting their child independence, when in reality they are being jellyfish parents by letting their child do whatever he or she wants in order to exert this independence I also wonder about Coloroso s view of praise, which she sees as detrimental to the child s development While I agree that constant praise has negative effects, there is a difference between praise and recognition As mentioned in Classroom Instruction that Works , by Marzano et al., being a role model and providing recognition when a child does well improves their attitude and willingness to complete the same task Overall, this book offers some great ideas, but other materials should be read in order to have a well rounded view of how children need to be raised and cared for


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Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline [KINDLE] ❀ Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline Author Barbara Coloroso – Centrumpowypadkowe.co.uk The parenting classic, now revised with new chapters, checklists, and information about today s most pressing issues regarding our childrenThis bestselling guide rejects quick fix solutions and focuse The parenting Worth It!: eBook ✓ classic, now revised with new chapters, checklists, and information about today s most pressing issues regarding our childrenThis bestselling guide rejects quick fix solutions and focuses on helping kids develop their own self discipline by owning up to their mistakes, thinking through solutions, and correcting their misdeeds while leaving their dignity intact Barbara Coloroso shows these principles in action through dozens of examples from Kids Are PDF/EPUB or sibling rivalry to teenage rebellion from common misbehaviors to substance abuse and antisocial behavior She also explains how to parent strong willed children, effective alternatives to time outs, bribes, and threats, and how to help kids resolve disputes and serious injustices such as bullyingFilled with practical suggestions for handling the ordinary and extraordinary tribulations of growing up, kids are worth it helps you help your children grow Are Worth It!: PDF É into responsible, resilient, resourceful adults not because you tell them to, but because they want to.

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  • Paperback
  • 352 pages
  • Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline
  • Barbara Coloroso
  • English
  • 01 October 2019
  • 0060014318

About the Author: Barbara Coloroso

Barbara Coloroso Worth It!: eBook ✓ is the author of the international bestseller Kids Are Worth It and Parenting Through Crisis and is an acclaimed speaker on parenting, teaching, conflict, resolution, and grieving Featured in Time, the New York Times, and on many radio and television shows, she lives with her husband in Littleton, Colorado.